How many of us can say we are striving for that? How many of us can say we are putting ourselves first for a change? Look, I'm by no means saying we need to neglect others who are in our care or walk away from our responsibilities. That wouldn't be wise at all. What I am saying is that in order to be any good for anyone else we have to be good to ourselves. Sometimes we have to say "no" and guess what? Everyone is going to be alright.
Nobody is going to fall over and collapse because you said that word. In fact sometimes it would empower them to know they don't need you as much as they thought. That maybe just maybe they can really make it without you being there the entire way. A child will never walk on his own if we are holding him every step of the way. He will be handicapped by us. Take care of you, ok? “The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness! (Matthew 6:22/23). At a minimum we have to aim to be spiritually, emotionally, and physically healthy and we will get there. Sometimes it's all about us and that can be very healthy.