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A "Wow" Moment

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So, yesterday I'm listening to a deep woman speaking on a show and she says something so profound that I had to write about it. 

She said, when someone betrays us and we think it's one of the worst things someone can do to us or one of the most pathetic things that can happen in our lives, what's even worse is when we betray ourselves. Our thinking may be, "how could they hurt me so bad" when the reality is we were not true to ourselves to allow that hurt. For clarity she (nor I) am speaking about the people who could not fend for themselves (ie, kids or people in particular situations with no escape). She was referring to able-minded and able-bodied individuals who didn't exercise their God-given right to choose better for themselves. People who compromised who we were, made excuses by settling for less, felt sorry for ourselves, or gave in to pressure. The list goes on. In other words, the people who allowed themselves to be treated a certain way or put up with nonsense when we knew we should have walked away. That is self betrayal and we're really no different than the person who betrayed us. 

We are what we allow to happen to us.

This was an eye opener for me, because sometimes when others have done me dirty and treated me like crap, for a long time I tended to blame them more than myself. Yet it took two to tango and I had to look myself in the mirror and determine why I allowed it. Was it because of the way I felt about myself? If I felt less than enough, then I indeed betrayed myself by allowing others to betray me in some way. If I was emotionally stronger I would not have allowed it, because I would have been able to identify it much quicker and walk away instantly. In order for us to be healed of those things that ail us we have to ask ourselves the hard questions and come up with sound logical objective answers. And if you've been coming to my blog for sometime now you know what's coming next -- that's right -- We have to turn to God first. "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" (Matthew 6:33).

Start with the Lord God and He will continuously direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5/6) to getting greater things for you. And I'm not just saying that. He did it for me and His glory is extensive and unlimited.

The point is, if we're feeling a negative or sorrowful way about ourselves we can't blame our "betrayers" for that. No one can force us to feel bad, angry, or sorry for ourselves. That's our choice, because God has given us the power to choose how we deal with situations and that includes our emotions. It's called free will. Consequently we can't blame people for how we feel, what we put up with, and we most definitely can't blame God. 

God always wants the best for us. Never hand-me-downs.

Anyway, this was a revelation to me. It was a wow moment and I never quite heard anyone put it like that before. It will make me think hard about some things, which is a great thing.
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