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The N Word

It's ok to use the N word

No, that dreaded N word. 

The word some people need to use more.


Do you have a problem with saying that word? Although it's never been a challenge for me, my heart goes out to the people who have a hard time with it. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. And saying no has always been a strength for me. So, I'll tell you what has worked for me and that is, if I can do it, I'll do it. If I can't, it's a "no" for me. And as I get older it gets easier and easier.

When we use discernment (wisdom) regarding when to say no, things will be ok and the world won't end. But if we're not careful, some people will try to use us up if we allow them, because some people want us to be their enabler, their sob story go-to person, or their down-and-out buddy. Yet we have to empower them to take control of their lives so they will be stronger and more focused. If we don't learn to do that, we face the prospect of being drained and this may lead to resenting others. 

Living our own lives is challenging enough. We can't be everything for everyone. All we can do is live our lives to be pleasing to the Lord God and He will continue to direct our paths. When we realize that saying no is ok and necessary to our own emotional health, it gets easier. Then the people who think they need us for their anchor will be just fine. We can guide them along by saying no in love. 

That's what works for me. 

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